FREEDOM - LETTER TO MY TEENAGE SELF

This is a letter that I wrote a few years ago, to my teenage self. When I wrote this, I was in a place of feeling like I had finally fully ‘arrived’ in my own life. Since then I have made another new and exciting experience: How it feels like to start creating the life you really want to live, to really make it yours. Too many times I see and hear narratives of teenagers ‘going off the rails’ or ‘getting in trouble’ and then ‘back on track’. And I know that my slightly crazy journey from ‘school drop-out’ to ‘PhD student’ could easily be caught in this box too. So today I thought I’d share my letter, to resist these narratives, and as a tribute to my teenage self who got me to where I am right now, as well as to everyone, no matter your age, who might relate to her. Forget the rails, it’s totally OK to create your own path.

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ME TOO IS A CONVERSATION AND A COMMUNITY. AND IT IS OURS.

ME TOO IS A CONVERSATION AND A COMMUNITY. AND IT IS OURS.

As 2017 draws to a close, in most end-of-year reflections #MeToo gets a mention. Often, it is talked about as an event, a highlight, a discussion, a debate, a reckoning, … Often, it is written about from an outside perspective, analysed, praised, and criticised. But for me, Me Too is not an event, it is an experience. An experience that I am living, together with fellow survivors, every single day. So in reflection of survivor activism in 2017, I thought I’d share what Me Too feels like as a lived experience.

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WE DON'T MAKE SENSE

WE DON'T MAKE SENSE

When I was 14 years old I lost my mind. Nope, not the normal ‘teenage thing’,  I’m talking about losing your mind to the point where you’re afraid you won’t ever get it back again. Seemingly overnight, I had turned from a well-behaved and well-adjusted girl full of promise into a crazy mess. I couldn’t make sense of this back then and I struggle to explain it even now.

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